Why Relationships & Marriages Divorce Or Separates

 

10 Reasons Why Relationships & Marriages End In Divorce or Separates!

Wrote By: Rose Joseph (J.J.)

When we find that one person with whom we can envision a future, we believe it will last forever. When we witness other couples going through divorce, separation, or relationship failures, we assure ourselves that it will never happen to us. The truth is, it can happen to us too, and to any relationship or couple. We've all heard the saying, 'We have to work at it to make it work.' Believe me, that is 100% true. The moment we stop trying, things can fall apart faster than we realize. Sadly, many relationships start with some form of deception or gaslighting just to make the other person like us. We don't realize at the time that this can be harmful to the relationship, but eventually, the truth comes out. 

So, why do some relationships and marriages work while others don't? I've asked several couples who have been through divorce or separation to gain a better understanding. Many of them said the same thing, and I'm going to share that with you in the hope that it might help you save your relationship if it isn't already too late.

So, let's get to those 10 reasons why!

1. Like I said starting the relationship on lies; When you start a relationship on lies, those lies might be deal breakers for the other person. Or the other person may not like someone who lies. Beginning a relationship with a lie means everything you said is a lie, the whole relationship. When you tell one lie you have to tell another to cover up that one.

2. Poor Communication; This is another major reason why relationships and marriages fail: In most relationships, one of the partners doesn't know how to communicate, and we can't read minds. So, it's best to talk with else other instead of leaving things left unsaid.

3. Infidelity; Better known as cheating, this occurs when one loses interest in a long-term relationship and seeks it elsewhere.

4. Financial Problems Or Financial Irresponsibility; When we start experiencing financial difficulties, or when our partner begins spending money that we need or don't have, it can lead to arguments, and being unstable. Every relationship will encounter financial challenges at some point, and if they cannot communicate effectively about the best way to manage them, the relationship may be at risk of ending.

5. Lack of Intimacy; Both partners need to prioritize both physical and emotional intimacy. If we become too busy, we might be too tired to be intimate or to even show affection. Therefore, it's important to make time for each other, even after a long day or week. Both partners need to appreciate and admire each other for the relationship to thrive. Remember Intimacy is a big part of a relationship, without it the relationship will not work!

6. Relatives; We may not like our relatives, and that's okay. There is always someone in the family we don't get along with. However, how we deal with our partner's relatives is a different situation, as well as, how they let their relatives treat us. It's important to be respectful, and if you truly can't get along with them, it may be best to keep your distance, to keep the peace in your relationship.

7. Empty Next Syndrome; This situation is common in older marriages with children. Many couples are so focused on raising their children that they don't notice how much they have grown apart or how problems have accumulated in their relationship. When the children eventually leave home, the couple no longer has distraction, and all the underlying problems come back to the surface.

8. Too Soon To Mary Or Too Young; When a couple gets married too soon or too young, they may not truly know the other person. As they get to know each other or as they grow up, they may realize that they don't like who the other person is. Instead of working on fixing the relationship, or learning from each other, they may feel that it's better to start over.

9. Conflicts Or Arguing; Sometimes, when there are too many conflicts or arguments over every little thing, it can feel overwhelming. Many couples struggle to communicate and resolve their issues, so they end up leaving them unresolved. Over time, these unresolved problems can accumulate, making it seem easier to walk away from the relationship.

10. Irreconcilable differences; There are several reasons why this happens. One common reason is that when a couple has children, they may not agree on their parenting styles. If both parents can't find common ground, they may decide to parent separately. Another reason for issues in this area could be having different life goals. While it's okay to have different goals, it's important to work together, even if you think your partner's goal is not realistic. After all to them, it is and this is their goal. We need to support them in all they do and work for.

Now that we've gone over 10 reasons why divorces and separation happen in both marriages and couples, do you find yourself thinking that there are areas where you have already made mistakes in your relationship? It's normal to answer that question with a "yes"! The crazy thing is that almost every one of these reasons has something to do with communication.

The sad truth is that over 75% of relationships and marriages end due to poor or lack of communication skills with their partners. In any problem or situation that your relationship faces the best thing we can do is communicate openly and honestly with each other.

I hope that you take some of these reason and use them to help save your marriage or relationship if it isn't already too late if that is something you want to do. Remember you have to work at anything to keep it going. Good luck in your relationships now and in the future. 

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