What Men Really Want In Relationships

 

12 Things men want in relationships without Saying!

Wrote By: Rose Joseph (J.J)

In every woman's life, there is a recurring question: "What do men want in a relationship?" I have pondered over this question several times. Since we can't read their minds and they are often reluctant to discuss it, we are left to guess. While it's commonly believed that most men prioritize physical intimacy, there must be more to it. To gain clarity on this issue, I surveyed over 500 men. This approach allowed us to obtain direct insights without engaging them in direct conversation. I have compiled the top 12 things that men want in a relationship, and I'm eager to share this valuable information with you.

"Please note that these questions were asked to men in a relationship or seeking one, not for casual encounters. Additionally, please understand that the survey does not represent the views of all men, but aims to provide a general ideal." Now, let's get to it!

1. Men seek out honesty in a relationship; This is the top thing men want to know: they can trust their partner. They also need to know that you trust them. Remember the saying, "Not all men are the same." They need to feel and know that you trust them. If you have insecurities or other trust issues, it's important to talk to him and let him know that it's not about him, and then explain what the real issue is.

2. Men do not want to be controlled by their partner; 'No man likes to be manipulated or controlled by his partner or wife.' Sometimes, women think they can change a man. When doing this, they are attempting to force them into something, which is a form of control. However, when this happens, it can make them feel like their freedom is being taken away. Put yourself in their shoes - would you want to be controlled all the time?"

3. Men need an emotional connection; Men are often seen as valuing physical connections more than emotional ones, but they also need emotional support. They want to feel comfortable discussing their fears, weaknesses, and worries with you. Even though they may try to hide their emotions to avoid appearing weak, when they know they have your support, they will show their feelings.

4. Men want to be respected; "If you are too demanding in public or around his friends, he will take it as you don't respect him. Think of it this way: you want respect from him, so give it to him. Talk in private if you disagree with something he said or did when you were around others." It's never a good idea to call him out in front of his friends or family. This will make him feel like you're treating him as a child.

5. Men want to see growth in the relationship; As men get older, they leave behind their wild one-night stand lifestyles. They start looking for long-term relationships, just like us. It's surprising, right? They do think like us sometimes, so it's good to keep that in mind.

6. Men desire and want space in a relationship; This doesn't mean they want to go out and have one-night stands and then come back to you. It just means that if he and his friends have a game night, he still wants to be able to participate. Just like when you need a girls' night, it's the same thing. Remember that saying, "What's fair for the goose is fair for the gander!" If you try to stop him or try to stay right under him at all times, he will lose interest in you. To him, it will seem like too much of a bother, and like you don't understand or trust him. This could also cause his friends to call him "whipped," and men don't like that.

7. Men need maturity from their partner; They want to know that when something comes up or you have an argument/disagreement, you're going to use your head and not act out. This can be a turn-off for some men. They can't be attracted to a woman acting like a child or acting crazy. Think before you act, even when you are at that point we all get to. Don't get me wrong, men like a little crazy, just not all the time crazy.

8. They look for common interests; Men like to feel a connection with you through shared interests such as movies, fishing, hunting, or gaming. When no common ground is found, it can be a significant red flag. Remember, they are looking not just for a partner, but for their best friend too. 

9. They like intelligent women, but they want to they can teach you something; Men are not attracted to women who act helpless. They appreciate intelligence and the ability to think for oneself. However, they also don't want to feel intellectually inferior. They enjoy being able to share or teach something new. They need to feel you need them, but you can also do it on your own.

10. Men want to be pampered; Like women, men also enjoy being pampered. While some women like to receive flowers and chocolate, men appreciate receiving a sexy text to let them know they are in your thoughts. They also enjoy being joined in the shower or bath and being washed down. Or as simple as making dinner and packing it to them. 

11. Men want to know/feel like a priority; If he is trying to talk to you, and you're too busy on your cell with friends, this will push him away. So, let him know that he comes first, just like you want to know you come first in his life.

12. Men need Sexual Connection; Yes, we all know this to be true. However, it's not simply about wanting to have sex. While sex is important in any relationship, maintaining a physical attraction is also crucial. Over time, in long-term relationships, it's common for women to stop putting effort into being visually appealing to their partners and subsequently lose that sexual connection. Consequently, the partner may lose interest. After all, they feel the woman is no longer interested in them because they quit trying. 

Now, as I mentioned, these are 12 things that your man wants in the relationship, and that's just a few. There are many more that we should be aware of, but this should give you a good start. It's important to keep in mind, that not every man or person thinks the same way. However, starting with a few of these things can help you find the right path in your relationship. I hope this information helps you in your current or future relationships. And remember that we can't judge all men based on another's actions. " Don't blame the book by its cover." Thinking like that, well, no relationship can work if that is our mindset. After all, we aren't like other women.

I'd love to hear from you, what are your thoughts on this topic? Is there something out there that should be discussed? Leave me any commitments or any ideas you would like me to write about! I look forward to all your emails and thoughts. You can read questions I've answered on "Quora" https://jjosephslovetalk.quora.com/