Reasons Love Feels Draining

 

8 Reasons Love Can Feel Draining or Exhausted 

Written By: Rose Joseph (J.J.)

   Have you ever fallen in love? If you have, you know that there isn't anything else like it. We experience so many different feelings that it can feel unreal at times. We are waiting for the other shoe to drop, but hoping it doesn't. Love brings excitement, happiness, worry, and sometimes sadness. These emotions are a normal part of a loving relationship.

   When we start a new relationship and fall in love, we are like a kid in a candy store. If we work on our relationship, it will grow and could be a lifetime commitment. However, if we don't, and things start to change, it can go sour fast.

   Love is associated with excitement, happiness, worry, and sometimes sadness, but you should never feel scared, fearful, bored, or drained. Feeling these emotions is not something we want to experience, as it could indicate that your relationship may be headed down the path of no return. So, what causes these feelings? I'm sure you already have a good idea of what a few of these mean. Let's talk about why you are feeling drained in your relationship so we can have a better understanding.

   There are multiple reasons leading to you feeling drained in your relationship. What are these reasons? Let's find out!

1. Emotional Exhaustion; If you are spending a lot of time worrying about your partner or how to fix a problem in the relationship, or if you are arguing all the time, it can leave you feeling drained in your relationship.

2. One-Sided Relationship; It seems like your relationship is centered around your efforts with little to no support, or you may feel like you're the only one making sacrifices, or you might find yourself being the one who always apologizes. This can be tiring and leave you feeling depleted/ drained.

3. Falling in Love; Yes, that's what I said! Falling in love involves a rush of emotions, which can leave you feeling drained.

4. Lack of Joy and/or Romance; "If your relationship lacks happiness due to fighting, or if there isn't any romance, it can confuse and lead to wondering why. Questioning yourself and your relationship can be draining. We need to have a little love in the relationship."

5. Disrespecting or Not Maintaining Boundaries; If our partner is constantly disrespecting us in front of friends, friends, family, or when we are alone, It can be really draining. When we constantly have to tell them to stay out of our personal matters or ask them to stop, it can also leave us feeling drained.

6. Questioning our future; When we are unable to envision a future with our partner or find ourselves questioning their place in our future or ours in theirs, it can be draining and exhausting. We shouldn't have to question this; we should be able to see both them and ourselves in it.

7. Lack of intimacy Or Sex; Every relationship needs intimacy and/or sex. When these aspects are missing, we may start feeling exhausted and question if something is wrong with us. Intimacy and sex play a huge role in a relationship.

8. Lack of Time; When we first start a relationship and it's new, all we want is to spend time with that person. When we aren't spending time together, it can get exhausting and make us question our relationship and our partner. Why don't they want to spend time with me? Who are they spending time with? It's exhausting to think about just those two questions. It could be that they are spending too much time with their friends and not with you.

   When we start questioning our relationship, we are heading down a path we don't want to. If we start feeling drained or exhausted, we need to find out what is causing it. Then we need to ask ourselves if this is something that we can fix, or if we should stop now instead of wasting our time. If our relationship gets to this point, it can harm our emotional well-being. Relationships and falling in love are supposed to feel good and give hope for the future, not leave us feeling drained or stuck. 

   Hopefully, you can learn something from this article and either work on your relationship or cut ties before you spend a lifetime in unhappiness.