How To Get Over An Ex

 

8 tips to get over an Ex

Wrote by: Rose Joseph (J.J)

Have you ever been in a relationship that didn't work out, and after the breakup, you still find yourself thinking about them and unable to move on? It could be because you still have feelings for them, or do not know what went wrong or why. This happens to more of us than we like to think about, and picking the situation into a thousand pieces doesn't help.

Where do we even start? How do we move on and get over that person? When we ask our friends, they tell us, "Just forget them!" However, it isn't that simple, or I'm sure we would have. So, is there a way or some form of tips that we could use that could help us move on? The simple answer is yes, however, it isn't easy, and it isn't going to happen overnight. After all, there had to be true feelings involved for us to have a hard time moving on. 

So, here is where you can start!

   1. Accept that it is over; The first step in getting over a breakup is accepting that the relationship has ended. You need to acknowledge that your ex is now part of your past and understand the reasons why the relationship ended, whether it was due to your actions, their actions, or both. Once you do this, you are on your way to healing.

   2. Focus on yourself; Now, it's important to focus on yourself. After a difficult breakup, we might feel like eating, struggle to sleep, and feel very sad. All of this can take a toll on our health; both physical and emotional. It's easy to start thinking that we can't go on with that person. But that's not true - you can do it! So, focus on yourself, try to get enough sleep, eat healthy, exercise, and spend time with friends who care about you and whom you care about. Being around these people will make you feel happier and less sad.

   3. Remove Reminders; Make sure to eliminate anything that reminds you of them. You might not want to, but delete any pictures, remove their number from your phone, block them on social media, and get rid of any music that brings them to mind. You don't need anything that will bring back those feelings or triggers.

   4. Give yourself time; Remember that healing from a breakup takes time. According to Healthline, it can take up to 3.5 months to get over a breakup. However, it might take longer for some individuals, depending on the length and depth of the relationship. It's important not to rush into another relationship thinking it will help you get over the other person. In reality, this can be harmful to both you and the new person involved. 

   5. Don't be hard or blame yourself; After a breakup, we often blame ourselves for why it didn't work. We start picking at every little thing we did wrong in the relationship. It's important to remember that it has as much to do with the other person as it does with you. Sometimes, things just aren't meant to be.

   6. Write a letter to your Ex; Believe it or not, sometimes this helps. Write a letter to your ex to let them know that you wouldn't change anything and that you're glad for the time you had with them. Then, tell them goodbye. Sometimes, this closure is what you need to help you move on.

   7. Do something for someone else; Sometimes performing acts of kindness can uplift our spirits and divert our attention from the past. Therefore, seek out someone in need and offer assistance, no matter how small.

   8. Consider a Professional; Sometimes, we may find it difficult to move on from a relationship without someone to talk to. Seeking help from a professional can provide us with the perspective and understanding that we may not gain from discussing our situation with friends. Plus, our friends can be a little judgemental when it comes to us. It's important to remember that advice from friends may not be applicable as they may not have experienced the same thing, or what worked for them may not work for us.

It's important to remember that breakups are a grieving process and involve a lot of different emotions. How we deal with these emotions will determine how long it takes to heal from a breakup. Even though it hurts and may feel like our heart is breaking, not being able to love at all is worse. Each relationship and path we take in life is a learning experience. We may not like the outcome or how it feels at the time, but we have to go through it to grow and learn. 

I hope some of these tips can help you if you are dealing with a breakup or feel like your heart is broken. Keep in mind, that it is okay to feel your emotions, even when they hurt, and it's okay to ask for help. After all, we all need a little help at some point in our lives.